What do I write in a funeral notice?
When it comes to writing a funeral notice or obituary, people often wonder where to start. We are often asked what to include, what the legal requirements are and if there are any ‘do’s and don’ts’ when writing a funeral notice.
The truth is there aren’t any rules or laws about the information you choose to write in a funeral notice, but given the nature of the notice and the circumstance people find themselves in when trying to find the words for a notice, it is helpful to have a rough guide to work from.
In today’s blog, I am going to offer some advice on what you need to consider when approaching a funeral notice, should you ever find yourself in the sad position of having to write one.
How to cope with darker nights
The combination of shorter days and gloomy weather at this time of year can take its toll on your mental health. It affects everyone differently, but can be worse for those who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).
Today I’m going to share some tips to hopefully help you cope with the darker nights and shorter days.
Bring the light inside
Make sure your house is well lit to compensate for the darkness outside. You could use fairy lights to brighten up your living room, or take advantage of the abundance of autumn scented candles that are available at this time of year. If you have an open fire, this can bring both light and warmth into your house.
You may be tempted to stay in because of the dark nights and cold weather, but this can be bad for your mental health. Getting out on an evening can do wonders for your mood, and it is important not to put your life on hold during the winter months.
Invite people over
Having friends and family over on an evening is a great way to combat the winter blues. You could have a dinner party with autumnal recipes, or just a get-together with snacks and drinks.
Go for a daylight walk
Going for a walk during the day when it is still light outside can help to keep your spirits up in the winter months. Try to get out during your lunch break or in the morning, or go for regular long walks on your days off.
It’s always important to get enough exercise, but it’s even more important during the winter months. You may not feel like exercising when it’s cold and dark, but it can help you to warm up, release endorphins to improve your mood and can even reduce tiredness caused by the darkness.
Can I bury my pet in my garden?
Pets are often thought of as members of the family, so it can be extremely difficult to cope with the loss when they pass away. Some pet owners like the idea of burying their pet in the garden of the house they lived in; this keeps them close, and allows them to remain in the home they loved. However, there are rules and regulations to be followed if you wish to bury your pet at home.
Most of the rules are simple and make sense; the remains must not be buried near a water source, they must be buried beneath 2-3ft of soil, you must own the land, and the animal must not be hazardous to bury. For more information see this Mirror article: Burying a pet in the garden could land you a £5,000 fine unless you follow certain rules
It is also advised that the remains be placed in a bag or box before they are buried, to avoid them being disturbed by other animals.
If these regulations are not followed, you could face a fine or even a short imprisonment. You do not need permission or planning consent, you are free to bury your pet in your garden as long as the rules are followed, which may help to give you peace of mind after their death.
Alternatively some people choose to get their pet cremated, and either scatter the ashes or keep them in their home. This means that if you were to move home in the future you could take the remains with you, which you would be unable to do if you buried your pet.
If you have lost a pet recently and are struggling to cope with your grief, take a look at our blog on how to cope with the death of a pet: How to cope with the death of a pet
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10 things to look forward to in Autumn
There’s a bite of cold in the air, the nights are pulling in and trees are starting to lose their leaves. This can only mean one thing: autumn is upon us. In this post we’ll look at 10 things to look forward to in autumn.
Top 10 Waterfalls to visit in the UK
The UK is home to a large number of beautiful waterfalls, so it was difficult to narrow down to just 10. Waterfalls are one of nature’s wonders, often inspiring feelings of awe and offering some truly beautiful places to visit. If you’re looking for more places to walk, why not go for a walk to a waterfall? Most waterfalls are even more spectacular after rainfall, so don’t let bad weather deter you from visiting.
Here are some of our favourite waterfalls in the UK:
Whitelady Waterfall, Lydford Gorge, Devon
Found in Dartmoor National Park, Whitelady Waterfall is 30m high, reached via a walk through semi ancient woodland. Lydford Gorge itself is the deepest river gorge in the South West, which also features the Devil’s Cauldron whirlpool.
Lightspout Waterfall, Carding Mill Valley, Shropshire
The sound of this waterfall fills the surrounding valley, so you are likely to hear the cascading water before the waterfall comes into view. This walk follows the stream until you reach the waterfall itself, which forces its way through a narrow gap in the rocks.
Aberdulais, Neath Port Talbot
The valley this waterfall resides in was formed around 20,000 years ago by a glacier melting, with the river flowing down the Dulais Valley for 13km before cascading over the Aberdulais waterfall, where it joins the River Neath. This powerful waterfall is even more impressive after heavy rainfall.
Ingleton Waterfall Trail, Yorkshire Dales, England
A walking route in the Yorkshire Dales which features a number of impressive waterfalls, including Thornton Force, a 14m cascade falling over a limestone cliff. The trail follows the rivers to provide stunning views of the waterfalls.
Henrhyd Falls, Brecon Beacons
Found in Brecon Beacons National Park in Wales, Henryd Falls is the tallest waterfall in South Wales at 27m. The water falls over a sheer rock face and into the wooded gorge below, which also offers a haven for wildlife. This waterfall was used in Batman: The Dark Knight Rises as the waterfall protecting the Batcave.
Pistyll Rhaeadr, Powys, Wales
One of the “Seven Wonders of Wales”, Pistyll Rhaeadr Waterfall is one of the largest falls in the UK at 80m high. The area is filled with magic due to the legend of Gwybr of Llanrhaeadr, a winged serpent who lived in the lake at the top of the falls, and would fly down to the local village to steal children, women and animals.
Steall Falls, Glen Nevis, Scotland
Steall Falls is Scotland’s second highest waterfall at 120m, sometimes known as the “Harry Potter Waterfall'' due to its use in the fourth Harry Potter film. The gorge surrounding the waterfall is known for its wildlife and beautiful ancient woodland.
Hardraw Force, Yorkshire Dales, England
Hardraw Force is England’s highest unbroken overground waterfall at 30m high. The fall was used in Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves. To access the waterfall you must pass through the Green Dragon Inn, a perfect place to start your walk.
St. Nectan’s Glen, Cornwall, England
St Nectan’s Glen is an area of woodland featuring a number of waterfalls, including Nectan’s Kieve, an 18m waterfall which has punched a hole through the rocks over time. Some consider this a sacred place, so when you visit you may find various ribbons, crystals and prayers scattered over the rock and foliage near the waterfall.
Why it's important to write a will
A will is a legal document advising how you would like your property to be distributed after your death. There are many misconceptions about wills, which are outlined in this article: 10 myths about writing a will busted
As the above article states, many people believe that they do not need a will, however it is important to have one if you want to be the one to decide what happens to your things once you’ve passed away. Making a will is the only way to ensure that your money, property and possessions go to the people you care about. If you have children under the age of 18, your will can also be used to specify who you would like to look after them in the event of your death. You can also choose an executor, someone to carry out the wishes in your will.
For a will to be legally valid, you must be over 18, and the will must be signed in the presence of two witnesses, who must also sign it. It must be in writing, and you must make it voluntarily and while of sound mind.
Once you have made your will, you are able to update it whenever necessary, such as after a big change in your life. The alteration must be made officially and is called a codicil, which must be signed and witnessed in the same way as the original will, though the witnesses do not have to be the same. Any major changes will require a new will to be made, which should state that the original is no longer valid. The original will should then be destroyed.
You can write your own will, and it will be legally valid as long as you follow the above mentioned rules. You can also seek help from lawyers, professional will writers, and even some charities and banks. It is advised that if your will is not straightforward, you should seek professional help in writing it.
Once you have written and verified your will, you need to store it in a safe place, and let your chosen executor know where it is. You can store the will in a safe place in your home, in your bank or with a solicitor.
If you do not make a will, the law decides where your estate will go. If you have specific wishes about who you would like your money and possessions to go to, then it is best to make it clear in a will.
For more information on why having a will is important and how to go about making one, Citizens Advice have a lot of information on their website, while the government website also has a brief overview.
Thank you for reading.
World’s Biggest Coffee Morning
World’s Biggest Coffee Morning is Macmillan Cancer Support’s biggest fundraising event to help them support people living with cancer.
The first ever coffee morning happened back in 1990, and since then over £290 million has been raised for Macmillan. One in two people will face cancer in their lives, and the money raised by these coffee mornings helps Macmillan to support those whose lives have been affected by cancer.
Tributes page remembers your beloved dogs who've gone over the Rainbow Bridge
By Nia Dalton
If you have ever lost a dog, you will know the immense pain and sadness of a quieter house and an empty dog bed.
On our sister site, the TeamDogs community are remembering the beautiful and beloved dogs that are gone but not forgotten.
Their Memorials Page shares tributes to the best friends that we have loved and lost. It celebrates the highs and lows of the beautiful blessing that is owning a dog.
We can't promise there won't be tears reading this - these eulogies are sure to tug on your heartstrings, but they will bring you comfort and peace if you can relate to the grief of losing a member of the family:
10 Ways to Honour a Loved One Who Has Passed Away
When a loved one passes away it may help to ease your grief by honouring them in some way. There are many ways you can do this; in this blog post I will give you a few ideas.
6 Must-see Films About Grief
Sometimes there’s nothing better than wrapping yourself up in your duvet like a burrito, plonking yourself on the couch and having a film day. Sad films about grief can help us to grieve as it can give you a sense that others understand what you’re going through, and it’s always helpful to let your emotions out and have a good cry.
Here we have created a list of six films that involve grief and that have achieved top reviews.